Love is a strong positive emotion of regard and affection. Well at least its supposed to be a positive emotion. But why is it that now from a positive emotion, love whether romantic or between friends or relatives, becomes a negative emotion after some time? To make my point clear I would like to share a story:

“A boy meets a girl, they become friends. They spend some quality time together as friends and get to know each other more. The girl is very caring by nature, she cares for all her friends and hence she cares for this guy too, helps him with things as much as possible. The boy starts liking her and asks her out.”

Before we move ahead, lets talk more about the girl. She is beautiful, has a lot of friends, some care a lot for her too but surprisingly none of her good friends ever asked her out, in short in spite of being a beautiful and smart girl, none she knew made her feel as special as one who is in a relationship.Now back to the story,
“the girl likes all the attention she gets from this boy but does not really think of it as a relationship. She still considers him a good friend. But when the boy asks her out she starts thinking about it. She finally decides no its not what she wants and that she did like the boy but only as a friend. This boy then tries everything he can to convince her. Tries to change everything that the girl did not like about him, tells her how much he likes her, what all would he do for her, how happy he will keep her etc etc…… But the girl says no.”

This happen to a lot of people. Well, only because I like someone does not mean the other person should like me too. But different people react to this differently. Some feel sad, some even go into depression, some other take this as a part and parcel of life and move on but some take it on their ego.
Now back to the story,

“After the girl says no the boy’s ego gets hurt. He starts following the girl, stalks her, calls her and people at her place and abuses them, calls her friend to malign her.”
You might have come across such people, hopefully you are not one of them. But If you are, I would like to ask you a question: Is this really love? How can you say you love some one so deeply that you can do everything for them and then only because the person does not reciprocate the same feelings you try and malign her? Guys loving someone is beautiful and it does not depend on whether the other person feels the same for you or not. Please don’t bring something like ego into a relationship because ego turns something that was so beautiful one’s into a nightmare.

To conclude the story, what happens next,
“well the girl tries telling the boys friends, sister etc to stop him from doing what he is. The boy is not ready to understand, finally he threatens her, she files a police complaint and he gets caught.”

Well this one is a real story and the people involved are my friends. I really hope things should have turned out to be different. Hopefully the boy learns his lesson from this and let us also learn some lessons from this

  1. Only because we like someone does not mean others should like us too. Everyone has their own choices and priorities in life and a right to make their own decisions.

  2. Ego and possessiveness are two things that one should keep out of relationships. Its these two things that can turn something beautiful into a nightmare.